Post #805072 by SouthSeasKat on Sun, Aug 14, 2022 8:43 AM

We, as a society, still have a long way to go in regards to being truly inclusive of diversity. And Tiki, like all fandoms, is a microcosm of society. Ergo, Tiki has had and continues to have problems being truly inclusive of diversity.

The 80s are another decade, one I actually remember and experienced, where a lot of the pop culture means a lot to me. But again, I am part of a group that had a pretty crappy time, and I marvel at how far we've come. It is absolutely right that horrific crap said to me as a child or as a teenager is taken much more seriously these days, and that children and teens growing up don't have to put up with the abuse that I did, or at least, they have recourse that I didn't. My parents were always supportive, but there were teachers and administrators who were every bit as much abusers as my peers. That is significantly reduced in 2022 vs 1989 or 1999.

And no, MrBaliHai, no one here is suggesting that, I hope! However, TC is one but arena, and there is a definite... Trad subculture that romanticises and idealises the Mid-Century in ways you only can if you are in a very, very, very narrow demographic (and ironically, not all of them are, failing to realise that if they found a time machine, this or that or the other aspect of their identity would get them excluded). If you like Tiki or Mid-Century music or Mid-Century architecture/furniture etc, you will eventually run into them.

I don't believe in kicking people off forums unless they are truly disruptive or abusive. I certainly oppose doxxing. But I do believe groups have a right to protect themselves against cancerous elements. If someone is going around being a jerk and making everyone feel bad, it's a very good thing to show that person the door. I do not for one second believe Sven was behaving in such a way.

I was also raised Catholic. And I hear you on the guilt.