Post #120989 by foamy on Thu, Oct 21, 2004 10:09 PM

I have a very dear friend, who could be Bong's brother (judging by posts and his friends defences). The man (my friend) has a heart of gold. But, he's offensive to the general public and common sensibilities. And, he often goes out of his way to be so. He showed up at my wedding wearing combat boots, cut off black jeans (with chains, etc.) and a Butt Hole Surfers T-shirt. It didn't bother me or my former wife: we knew what to expect. But, when he got into general discussions with my brand new father in law – well, let's just say he was lucky he was at my wedding. He's a real nice guy and a real old punk (literally, like Bong discribed himself). I think Bong and I could get along real well in person. I have no complaints, I appreciate his (very) dry wit and sarcasam.

Here's the rub: Most of my buddy's friends, (me included, to some extent) don't like or won't allow him to be too near or interact too much with our families or relatives. It's too much trouble. A person gets tired of defending him. I get tired of warning him to watch what he says and does, and to whom. I won't cast him off, I just select situations where I don't have to stand between him and a crowd (and even that is dicey, but, I gladly live with that). I know how Hanford feels and why he's doing what he's doing.

To Bong: The difference between you and my buddy is that, in this situation, he'd have f'd this and f'd that and f'd you, and then gone and skulked and smouldered for a month (maybe more). You appear to be trying to play ball. I know I'm a nobody on this board, but heck, you're trying, that's points in my book. Keep it up. For what it's worth, I'd miss you if you were gone. Peace.

[ Edited by: foamy on 2004-10-21 22:23 ]