Post #158358 by Humuhumu on Thu, May 12, 2005 11:53 AM

Put yourself in her shoes. What if she had a hobby that you weren't interested in that would soak up all of your family's vacation days? You have to admit, it's got to be frustrating to feel like your only choices when it comes to your very precious vacation days are to do something that you don't particularly like, or doing something alone instead of being with your favorite person in the world. That sucks.

Tiki is great and all, but family comes first, and you have to decide together as a family how you're going to spend your time, or risk growing apart. If you want to get her into tiki, work with her find middle ground to get her started. Tiki is a massive world, you are aware of what it encompasses and she might not be. Think about the parts that she might like and get creative about introducing her to them, even if it's the parts of tiki that don't necessarily thrill you. Back off on some of the things about tiki that she currently finds irksome -- pick your battles.

And be willing to explore and actually get into the non-tiki things that she's into that you don't particularly care for so there's a trade-off and you don't feel like you're living separate lives. The separate-lives business works for some couples, but it seems to spell trouble for most of them.