Post #183253 by Velvet Ruby on Tue, Aug 30, 2005 11:12 PM

well I'm bummed.

I can't afford a membership (as much as I'd love to have one) .. as I'm a starving student for the next while.. I admit I posted more in the bilge area than in the others recently .. mostly because it seemed that (as Codelisa noticed as well) when I tried chiming in, in other areas no one really noticed.. there's a tight-knit bunch of people here, which is awesome, but if you're not at a point where everyone knows who you are it's difficult to get past the polite 'nice to see you here' stuff and become involved in the discussions.. people tend to skim over responses from people they don't already know..

I've always READ waaay more than I've posted.. mainly because I'll be the first to admit I'm no expert, and I'm not going to make an ass of myself responding to threads that I know nothing about.. (which I'm sure everyone is grateful for) and I have felt at times people can be a little condescending to those of us who are still getting to know everything. I'm here to learn (and drool over people's stuff and bars) but that includes not only about Tiki related things, but about the PEOPLE who are into Tiki related things (which honestly will always be more interesting than any inanimate object could ever be IMO)

anyway.. I just found bilge and beyond a great place where you could (as others have pointed out) get to know people and their sense of humour etc etc a bit better. I was hoping this would translate (eventually) to feeling more comfortable posting in other more "tiki" related areas (with people not being as quick to judge if you inadvertently say something stupid heh. :wink: )

I guess I just kinda feel like I'm in high school again and the "cool" clique is taking another step in separating themselves from the rest of us losers who don't have enough money to keep up.. (I realise that this is not the way the move was intended to come across)

I also don't really understand why people were complaining about those areas.. it's a message board.. if you don't like the topic isn't the usual course of action just.. not to read? and if threads are taking up too much bandwidth or space or whatever.. can't the moderator just say.. "hey guys this is taking up a lot of space, can we put a hold on these kinds of threads?" and then delete them? Or after 2 weeks or so delete the threads in those "time wasting" forums as there's probably nothing in them that people will bother searching for anyway..

At any rate.. I didn't make this site, I just enjoy it..and I thank you for creating it in the first place! so I respect your decision even if I don't fully understand it (and yes I did read the reasons) I'll still kick around.. but probably more in a lurking capacity :)

anyhoo.. that's my 2cents..