Post #327247 by Formikahini on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 10:13 PM

Well, I wouldn't say it couldn't be about MIL's religious beliefs. There are places I choose not to go because of mine, just as there is art that I choose not to put in my home because it makes me uncomfortable for any number of reasons, some of which may be my religious beliefs. I'm not afraid of anything "attacking" me, but for example there are places (like particular bars) I choose not to go, just as my being a teacher limits me from going to certain places. I value my job more than my right to go to a titty bar (which actually came up recently. I soooo didn't want to go anyway, but I could use the job excuse nicely!). I don't tell people they can't go to those places or that they have to remove objects from their homes (good grief), but I may choose to avoid these things myself. (And I do/have things to which they may object; they don't have to join me at those times either).

I think I'm siding with the she's-family-and-she-won't-be-around-forever camp. If I were in your shoes, I'd put away the specific offenders (if they can be named and temporarily removed/covered) with each MIL visit.

It's just stuff (Gasp! I said it!).

She's your wife's mother.

And if that ain't good enough . . . The meet-her-at-a-neutral-place suggestion sounds great to me!