Post #386996 by beadtiki on Sat, Jun 14, 2008 1:45 PM

I have started to realize that this website is a version of S&M - those who like to be beat up and those who like to do the beating (I believe I must qualify for the former). In the short time I've been coming here, I've noticed a complete breakdown of civility. I thought, oh, maybe it's just a couple of old farts who have staked a claim to this site and want to make it like an exclusive neighborhood (you know, must have the monotone house paint, the fence can only be so tall and made a certain way, you have to ask permission to update your home so EVERYone in the neighborhood will know your business, etc). But then I realized that if you're in here long enough, like an infection, you get the "nasty bug" and start treating others with disrespect - I'm no different. On two ocassions I "perceived" that another member had slighted me and in reality I was acting defensively because I assumed it was yet another nasty member and wanted to defend myself. Now I see it's just bad manners all the way around. Those of you who feel the need to beat up on the "little guy" have turned a group of normal, civil people into a bunch of jumpy, paranoid jerks - I guess the more the merrier.

I really was hoping to find a like-minded community when I PAID MONEY to join this exclusive group and now I wish I hadn't wasted my money on a lame membership when I could have been puting it towards the purchase of something nice from fellow TCers - which I have done a lot of and will continue to do. I suppose that my trip to Oasis and the local Tiki Home Bar Tour will be greatly effected by my comments here. I, no doubt, will be shunned by those who disagree with these statements, but you know what, I want to go to San Diego and the Home Bar Tour, I want to have fun and enjoy the crazy element that is Tiki, therefore I will not allow a few peoples' rotten attitudes towards others ruin my good times.