Jeffery said:
Has today's TC crowd lost it's original warmth?
yes, yes it has.
oh look...
the bi-weekly bearer of bummers himself...
i don't know anyone who gripes more than you
in such an unfunny fashion...
like nails on a chalkboard
same sound
every event
:lol:
I guess we should all take the approach suggested by Staple Singers
when they sang about cleaning up your own backyard first before helping others..
If all of us at TC tried to smile just 1% more
or made a point to say Aloha to at least 3-5 strangers
then we could add even more ohana to the mix!
and it would be contagious!
the threats to original warmth of this crowd
is the alcohol and the internet
BOTH of them are very open to interpreting situations and posts in a number of ways.
for instance...the so-called cliques
i imagine it's just some close friends possibly really drunk and really focused
and we've all had a conversation like that...Someone may slide into the group but you're so intensely-focused to listening to what your friend is saying and
the new person who just popped in to say "Hi" is uncomfortable or weird or so drunk that they have nothing to contribute...
It's not that the clique is rude..
it's that you don't know the proper way to approach/enter a crowd..
the best approach I've found is not to interrupt their conversation,that's rude and boorish...add alcohol and it's obnoxious!
You pat them on the back
or point
or wink
or make like you're smoking a ciggie and pointing to the door...
Visual cues....
Also, there's loudness and chaos going on around...very hard to hold a conversation...
Best TC event conversations-groups of 3-5 outside where it's quiet chain-smoking..
Also, last event, i drank not a drop of booze...
I bought a lot of sodas,tho,so i supported the joint..
Anyways,Upon leaving
it wasn't terribly fun or terribly awful
the Orchestra rocked
but i didn't leave thinking "that was a Blast!"
or "That really Blew!"
so,take an average Joe
add alcohol
get him buzzed
and the results are a lot different....
he would've had an awesome time
or got offended at some imaginary slight
it's a 50/50 thing...
So try your best to say aloha to a stranger at the next event...
and we'll all try to be less rude!
but only if you don't drink...
Plus the TC crowd is getting older
that's a whole new level of crabby there!
:lol:
