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F Formikahini Tiki Socialite Houston, Texotica Joined: Aug 22, 2002 Posts: 1515	F Formikahini Posted posted on Mon, Aug 3, 2009 9:54 PM Maybe I'm the kind of person who upsets you - unintentionally. At these events, which are very short and very precious, I am trying to see more old friends than I can possibly squeeze into the alloted time (or even a month). I want to meet certain folks too, with whom I've corresponded or whose posts I have read and admired. I'm also trying to buy cool stuff for my home. And rehearsing for/performing in the show. Attending/assisting a seminar. Avoiding Bamboo Ben. Maybe eating and sleeping a little.....(naaaah!). But that means there is SO little time for me to meet and spend quality talking time with somebody whom I just happen to meet. And I LOVE meeting people - don't get me wrong. I'm not all insulated/isolated/wrapped up in my own little world (um, usually). All of us were at one time new/fairly new to this World O' Tiki. I attended my first event (the closing of the Kahiki in 2000) knowing my traveling buddy (who barely knew a couple of people there) and one other guy. Before it was over, I had met a number of people with whom I would later become fast, fast friends, and others who are lovely acquaintances. And I've become pals with great folks who showed up at Hukilau all alone, and by sticking it out and being reasonably friendly, they ended up having a wonderful time. I considered myself lucky that they ended up spending some quality post-Hukilau time with me. But there's not time for me to hang out with every person who crosses my path at these events. There's not time for me to hang out with my friends at these events. But I always leave having met some great new folks - who then become the people I try unsuccessfully to spend quality time with the next event!! Upshot: Get out there, have some fun, be yourself, don't be mad at people who are trying see other folks who have flown across the country to see them (and not necessarily you), and you will have a ball. And you'll meet some great people! Hoping she doesn't sound like a total, socialite bitch with this post, Formikahini P.S. You don't really have to avoid Bamboo Ben. He's usually harmless.

Maybe I'm the kind of person who upsets you - unintentionally.

At these events, which are very short and very precious, I am trying to see more old friends than I can possibly squeeze into the alloted time (or even a month). I want to meet certain folks too, with whom I've corresponded or whose posts I have read and admired. I'm also trying to buy cool stuff for my home. And rehearsing for/performing in the show. Attending/assisting a seminar. Avoiding Bamboo Ben. Maybe eating and sleeping a little.....(naaaah!).

But that means there is SO little time for me to meet and spend quality talking time with somebody whom I just happen to meet. And I LOVE meeting people - don't get me wrong. I'm not all insulated/isolated/wrapped up in my own little world (um, usually).

All of us were at one time new/fairly new to this World O' Tiki. I attended my first event (the closing of the Kahiki in 2000) knowing my traveling buddy (who barely knew a couple of people there) and one other guy. Before it was over, I had met a number of people with whom I would later become fast, fast friends, and others who are lovely acquaintances.
And I've become pals with great folks who showed up at Hukilau all alone, and by sticking it out and being reasonably friendly, they ended up having a wonderful time. I considered myself lucky that they ended up spending some quality post-Hukilau time with me.

But there's not time for me to hang out with every person who crosses my path at these events. There's not time for me to hang out with my friends at these events. But I always leave having met some great new folks - who then become the people I try unsuccessfully to spend quality time with the next event!!

Upshot:
Get out there, have some fun, be yourself, don't be mad at people who are trying see other folks who have flown across the country to see them (and not necessarily you), and you will have a ball. And you'll meet some great people!

Hoping she doesn't sound like a total, socialite bitch with this post,
Formikahini

P.S. You don't really have to avoid Bamboo Ben.
He's usually harmless.

Post #474277 by Formikahini on Mon, Aug 3, 2009 9:54 PM