Proposal for Anything Goes - Beyond Tiki

H Hanalei_Pirate Member Joined: May 15, 2003 Posts: 136	H Hanalei_Pirate Posted posted on Thu, Aug 28, 2003 5:04 PM On 2003-08-26 13:07, SugarCaddyDaddy wrote: Since we are unlike 95% of other internet forums, whereby we actually meet each other, go on trips with each other, and socialize in person on a regular basis, you will notice that those topics that have been either highly insulting and/or highly controversial have been by members that are not quite local to any other members at all or don't socialize with other members in person. For them, we are just names on the screen. Well I been watching how this was going and since I was so involved in the Kahukini political fray, I don't know whether to apologize or disappear. As I'd said in that post I was offended by the person shoving their political views into our face and then insulting a TC'er who tried to offer a compromise position. Since I am fairly new to the board I was unfamiliar with previous instances that led to locked posts. In fact, I hadn't even heard of a locked post until then. Anyway, I think that SugarCaddy took the words right out of my mouth - this group is unique in that we meet and socialize in public at regional events or local ones - and this makes us different. This has grown to be a unique community of friends and family all united by a common thread (tiki) and do we really need fight over our differences? I personally don't have an objection to having an anything goes forum since it is up to the TC'er to read or not-read the posts. But one should be mindful that one may meet one day in person, taking a flame war from a keyboard to a social situation and would you want to do that. If such a forum existed, one should keep this in mind when posting and be careful in making sound arguments and not personal attacks on fellow TCers. The other problem I see is how to decide if a topic needs to be placed there - or moving a topic from another area if it turns into a debate? That could get kind of tricky. But what I don't get is why someone would go crying to Hanford about an attack - what do they expect him to do about it? Just my thoughts, as incoherant as they may be.

On 2003-08-26 13:07, SugarCaddyDaddy wrote:
Since we are unlike 95% of other internet forums, whereby we actually meet each other, go on trips with each other, and socialize in person on a regular basis, you will notice that those topics that have been either highly insulting and/or highly controversial have been by members that are not quite local to any other members at all or don't socialize with other members in person. For them, we are just names on the screen.

Well I been watching how this was going and since I was so involved in the Kahukini political fray, I don't know whether to apologize or disappear. As I'd said in that post I was offended by the person shoving their political views into our face and then insulting a TC'er who tried to offer a compromise position. Since I am fairly new to the board I was unfamiliar with previous instances that led to locked posts. In fact, I hadn't even heard of a locked post until then. Anyway, I think that SugarCaddy took the words right out of my mouth - this group is unique in that we meet and socialize in public at regional events or local ones - and this makes us different. This has grown to be a unique community of friends and family all united by a common thread (tiki) and do we really need fight over our differences? I personally don't have an objection to having an anything goes forum since it is up to the TC'er to read or not-read the posts. But one should be mindful that one may meet one day in person, taking a flame war from a keyboard to a social situation and would you want to do that. If such a forum existed, one should keep this in mind when posting and be careful in making sound arguments and not personal attacks on fellow TCers. The other problem I see is how to decide if a topic needs to be placed there - or moving a topic from another area if it turns into a debate? That could get kind of tricky. But what I don't get is why someone would go crying to Hanford about an attack - what do they expect him to do about it? Just my thoughts, as incoherant as they may be.

Post #49564 by Hanalei_Pirate on Thu, Aug 28, 2003 5:04 PM