Post #53831 by Tikitackett on Sun, Oct 5, 2003 12:11 AM

Okay...I have to step in and say something. I have been a member of this board for a while and have never said anything that would clue in to my orientation, but this whole thread just annoys the hell out of me.

Based on this thread, am I to assume that gay men are not welcome in the world of "tiki"? I for one do NOT wear skirts or sarongs when I go to a luau. As a matter of fact, I don't think I have EVER seen a gay man at a luau wear a skirt or muu muu.

I am totally in love with the tiki "lifestyle", and I enjoy the way it has set me apart from the other guys and girls I work/relax with. As a matter of fact, my being so "tiki" has nothing to do with my being gay...it has to do with my love for the Enchanted Tiki Room and Shag's artwork. So I don't understand where the whole gay/tiki connection really comes into play.

I guess working for the Walt Disney Company has given me the opportunity to learn about so many different cultures and has opened my eyes to so many different types of people, that I am just so desensitized (sp?) and cannot bring myself to exclude ANYONE who is interested in tiki from being a part of such a great movement.

I'm only 26, and all I have to say is:

"If you people are older than I am, and still can't bring yourselves to act like adults and get along...then don't post on this board."

Grow up and use what you have in common (tiki) to get over your differences.

Because of this argument, I am now totally afraid to go to any local Tiki events, thinking that I am not welcome because of my orientation...and don't get me wrong...I am NOT an activist out there looking for "rights" or "priveledges" that for the most part I already have. I am just looking to have a good time with other tiki-types who are mature enough to just let it go and have fun. I don't throw my orientation in your face like the people who knock on your door soliciting religion. I am a discreet (sp?) individual who simply takes offense to the comment that gay guys take luaus as a chance to get dressed up in skirts and crap like that.

Now that I have said my piece, I am going to shut up again.