Post #67395 by emspace on Fri, Jan 2, 2004 4:17 PM

Aloha all,

as the proud daddy of now 8-month old Oliver, I just wondered if anyone else wanted to weigh in on the subject of "Damn I miss my friends, but I feel so guilty when I see them and come home a wee bit tiddly even".

How was this dealt with in your case? Mrs. emspace seems content to spend all her time with baby and never see her friends no mo', but I am hankering to occasionally tie one on with the boys, no more than once a month MAX. But I have been given shit unlimited about irreponsible-daddy behavior. I am NOT looking for a marriage counsellor, just hoping someone could relate their own experiences. Is it wise to wait at least a couple of years till Ollie has more autonomy and requires less of Mom's time and energy so she feels no resentment?

Should I tell all my good old friends "I eschew alcohol now, yessir, cuz that's the only path to responsible daddyhood!" and find a bunch of pickle-up-arse daddies to hang out with? BTW, I have never done anything really stupid while under the influence. I am a happy, friendly drinker, and my friends and I value each others' company and the fun and conversational stimulation the good fellowship of booze can bring. But Mrs. emspace seems to have developed an alcohol phobia since becoming a mother.

All advice, anecdotes, and further pushing of my already jammed guilt buttons warmly welcomed.

:) em.

P.S. one of said friends is the one who wants to run an event at the Waldorf rooms, and I know he is terribly dismayed I haven't given any time or effort to helping him. I expect him to give up on the idea as a result.