Post #609798 by SandraDee on Tue, Oct 11, 2011 8:53 AM

On 2011-10-10 11:22, Wildsville man wrote:
As I did Not attend this event and I don't know anymore of the situation then what you stated,I do know this from doing my own event.

Call them out publicly,

Ban the individual from the future events,as to not punish the group

Don't let someone BULLY anyone. If you noticed a problem then I am sure others did too.......

The line needs to be drawn. As I say with Tiki Caliente,"Its not the biggest,it's the best" and to make it that way I believe you have to tell some people they are not welcome.

Rory it really is a shame that this can't be done!
I am pretty positive you have never met Psycho Tiki D before but when you do you will see how he really doesn't play the whole drama game.He also does not overtalk people or push his ideas on anyone. Same can't be said for other parties involved this year.

The incident with something being taken/misplaced was an uncomfortable one. When the host had everyone leave she was later rudely chastised for doing so by this same person. Keep in mind that the host is a core Sac Ohana who opened up her home last year as well during a crawl that had NO DRAMA whatsoever. In fact last year's event was the most pleasant tiki gathering I have ever been to.

In addition the person who made the announcement was later bullied by 2 other crawlers for sticking up for the host and asking everyone to leave. As PTD said in his original post the host ASKED This person to make the announcement--there are NO "different stories floating around". Not cool at all and something that will not be forgotten.

It really is sad that the saying "One bad apple spoils the bunch" is true in this case. Its like a cancer that should be cut out since its affecting everyone bit by bit.

Psycho Tiki D is one of the nicest people to know..he is an avid tiki enthusiast and has shared (much to MANY people's envy!) some amazing pieces of tiki history on these boards. For him to post what he did a few pages ago about stepping down from an event he helped start is pretty freaking sad and shows the level of disrespect that some people are completely cool with acting on.

With Regards to the Event -
The weekend was a fun - and exhausting one!

It was great to have Soccertiki and WooHoo come hang out for the weekend and it was easy to tell that by Sunday night they had definantly enjoyed themselves :)

I had never been to Swanberg's store so that was a nice place to begin on Saturday--it was great to see tiki folk supporting an independent retailer who deals in what we all love.

Tacky Tiki's lounge is a marvel of kitschtastic decor. I can not believe how much amazing stuff they have jammed and so artfully displayed in their home.

The garage sale was a huge hit I thought. So much stuff to look through and I could see many people were leaving with some awesome treasures.

TikiMookie/Matt The Cat's home is beautiful. Their rattan set is really eye popping and the fire pit out back was such a welcomed thing to have as the sun set. I have to say the best part of their stop was the gumbo. Good lord that was some heavenly food :)

Sunday always starts off with the impressive collection of Wendy & Dan . It is such a treat to spend time with this pair not only because their upstairs Jungle Room is mind blowing but because of how enthusiastic and loving they both are. If you have never had the pleasure of seeing Wendy's smile or getting to talk music with Dan you are missing out.It goes without saying that the decanter they made this year is epic. I don't know how they will top themselves but I said that LAST year so we shall have to wait and see....

What I love about Darilyn's house is not her tiki bar/room collection (which is great) but her SHAG inspired living room. Talk about swanky!

Hanging out at Brad and Melanie's was such a treat because they not only handed out necklaces/glasses/swizzles to keep but they had a great food spread AND hula dancers! Talk about one heck of a stop.

Sunday night ended at Brenda's who has a great home with plenty of party space AND she and Scott both donned great pilot/stewardess duds which added to the fun atmosphere of the evening.

From what I heard throughout the night this may be the last time many of the hosts decide to open their homes up for so many strangers to parade through so I feel lucky to have been able to see so many awesome collections before they are "vaulted" away.

Events such as the Sac Crawl are not meant to "put cities on the map". They are meant to bring our somewhat small community closer together marveling over the odd crap we collect and creating friendships that last longer than a weekend. We talk alot about feeling the "aloha" spirit amongst our gang of obnoxiously bright shirt wearing/super strong drink guzzlin/dusty ceramic buying peeps but what does this really mean? It means showing your fellow tikiphiles respect--when someone puts years of effort into planning events such as this one you would think they know what works to throw an event such as a crawl and listen to ideas as a collective whole-not steamroll over people because you talk louder than everyone else. When someone is not comfortable having people in their home after discovering something is amiss you do not degrade them and put them down but instead offer your assistance in righting the wrong and ensuring them that things will be worked out. You also don't think you have a right to speak about matters you know nothing about just because you think the "facts" you have are indeed correct.

I love so many of the Sac Ohana and hope that both old and new members of this tiki community can work out the kinks, get rid of the cancer and gather again in the future in the same manner as has been done in the past.

[ Edited by: SandraDee 2011-10-11 09:11 ]